Whenever we advertise a film day (or, often even when we don’t) there’s a mixed bag in applications.
There’s been remarkably few, as a percentage, which has ended with someone filming with us – and not all that many more which were good, but it wasn’t going to be possible this time.
There’s also an awful lot who go quiet when asked for a phone number or payment – and whether this was because they were intentionally wasting time, got nervy when it became “real” or had somehow missed this was required doesn’t matter all too much, it still helps no one.
Personally, I believe there are those who probably would be accepted but need to work on their communication, or those who actually this isn’t right for them just yet.
This is a little guide designed at improving chances, if you wish to be a film sub, whether applying to us or others.
SPECULATIVE ENQUIRIES RARELY GO ANYWHERE
I mean exceptions apply but if you are a new/unknown/inexperienced film sub then contacting us or Dommes going “can I film?” this simply isn’t going to happen.
Even folk who have sent speculative mails when it turns out we have got a slot OR are about to announce one still tend to go nowhere.
Of course if you’re not new/unknown/inexperience you likely already know this.
And of course ourselves and others are sometimes open to collaborative suggestions – but collabs does mean shares of the work and you need to have some experience 😉
READ THE CASTING
We try to go into as much detail as possible on which Dommes will be there, and the sort of scenes we hope to shoot. It will also have details about masks (usually “permitted, but bring your own”), tribute, and a location (usually the town/city, or if in London a rough part of London).
Other Dommes tend to do similar.
Most castings will already answer most the questions you would have.
Some things are bigger deal breakers than others, like, if you cannot travel so far – don’t contact. If you can’t/won’t cover a requested tribute – don’t contact. If you can do SOME of the listed activities then it may be worth contact. If you can do NONE of what is listed it’s probably not.
CONTACT
If you think something may be something which is of interest to you, which you can attend, and would be suitable for then drop a line. Not literally, one line. “Make it brief but make it count”
Contact via the preferred method (we usually prefer email, some prefer DM or text).
Within the email introduce yourself briefly, specifically mention any experience you have in stuff that has been listed as wanting to shoot. Do include other interests, but not fantasies.
If you have filmed before, mention who with. If you have not filmed before, mention other experience (have you sessioned with Pro Dommes. Are you active in kink community. Do you play with a partner.) Include links to socials like twitter or fetlife. A phone number is also appreciated (if you are accepted you will be asked for one).
A good sample email could be
“I am enquiring about the film day at [location] on [date].
I am available the whole day / I am available between the times of [start] and [finish]
I have filmed before with x, y, z – here is a link to some content / I have not filmed before but have sessioned with [Dommes names] / I am active in my local kink community as you can see from my socials
Of your listed activities I am experienced with [activities] I am also interested in [interests]
You can find my socials here [links] and my phone number is [number]
I am aware if you accept me there will be a tribute”
WHAT HAPPENS NEXT?
Generally, I think in most cases a message like the above would get a response. If, however, you do not get one – don’t be disheartened.
If you do, there may be follow up questions – or it may even be a quick move of “OK, we’d love to have you” in which case payment instructions or other pre-requisites would be sent.
Maintaining good, clear and prompt communication always will help you out.
Confidence that you can communicate well on film days goes a long way.
THE TRIBUTE IS NON-NEGOTIONABLE (AND USUALLY NON-REFUNDABLE)
The mechanics don’t need to be explained. If you are unknown to the Domme(s) there will always be a tribute.
Trying to haggle, or trying at the last minute will likely always end with a mark against your name. And as Dommes share info, this may decrease your chances of replies in the future.
Unfortunately tributes are usually non-refundable. Exceptions are if the person you are applying to subsequently has to cancel the film day, or reschedule to a date you cannot do.
If you cancel we MAY be able to offer at least a partial refund if we can replace you – but others are not obligated to offer it.
IF YOU ARE NO LONGER INTERESTED – TELL US!
It doesn’t need to be war and peace. Ill? Cold feet? Family commitments? Now you’re confirmed it all seems scary.
Genuinely most people will think more of you for saying this, than for ghosting or no showing.
IS THAT IT?
Well. While there is more I could go into – genuinely, this is it.
That’s the bar that many seem to fall short on.
It’s not all that difficult to get the ball rolling if you’re new to filming and wish to get into it.